Today we’d like to introduce you to Dondrika Lacy.
Hi Dondrika, it’s an honor to have you on the platform. Thanks for taking the time to share your story with us – to start maybe you can share some of your backstory with our readers?
This is my story:
I remember thinking back as a young lady no matter how beautiful I was on the outside; I was missing something on the inside of myself. Once I discovered what I was missing on the inside of myself; this is when my life completely changed for the better and it keeps getting better!
I was the lady who always looked like I had my whole entire life together. I remember I always wherever I would go and pretty much whatever I would do I would attract men and women. Mostly men. However; what I found out and discovered about myself was that I used to lack so much confidence because I never knew who I truly was. I used to walk with my head down, I could barely make eye contact with people even when I would just having small conversations. I remember that whenever I walked into a room, I will adjust to everyone that would be inside of the room instead of me being set apart.
Yes; me; I thought I had everything when I used to have all the money and every car that I could ever dream of that I ever wanted in my life. (The only vehicle I never had is a Rolls-Royce.) wherever I go, and I will pull up to any place, it always seemed like I got the most attention. But deep down instead of me actually facing what I needed to address, I used to just cover it up keep going as if I was OK and deep down inside myself; I was actually falling. Falling with my true identity from within.
At one point this time in my life, I was always the girl outside, I was always the girl who bought everything, I was always the girl who brought some kind of style into the place, no matter where I went. I remember after a lot of those long nights and early mornings I never felt fully rested. I would sleep and then I would go six days in a row with being in the world. And when you have a life of that statue, you lose sight and you also lacked discipline. It’s amazing how life has a way of really teaching us a lot of things that we need to know at any point in time in our lives.
I remember falling for the very first person in my life that had showed me something completely different of a life that I wasn’t used to. It seemed like this person loved me with no conditions and gave me the entire world without me having to ask. I didn’t have to perform for this person. I didn’t have to act like I was something that I was not. All I knew was that I was the woman that they desired to have in totality. Whenever you encounter a person like that, what do you do? You fall in love; however; as I was falling for love, I was also losing myself even more.
I remember the day that I just knew that this person and I was going to be together forever. One thing what I’ve learned about certain people is that; you have to really pay attention to them because however, they treat themselves as to how they’re going to treat you. At times we can get with people that will allow us to lose sight of us just so we can gain sight on them and keep them happy. We are slowly killing ourselves in a way that will require you to pull back ( pull back from them) so that you’re able to understand who you really are.
Whenever I ask for certain things, it just revealed to me more and more of the kind of person at that time that I was. What I’ve noticed at that time of my life, as well as that whenever your emotions are in the front seat, you’re going to wreck! Whenever you learn how to evaluate and keep your emotions intact, you operate in a different realm.
I remember the day that I started to finally let what was not good for me go to redefine and rediscover who I truly am. That took separation from people, places and things so that I am able to fully sit with myself and learn who I really am. Just like I mentioned earlier; it was the inner self of me that was empty.
Now it’s time to overflow!!!
I started to sit with myself in quiet spaces and quiet places to read what filled my spirit at the time so that I was able to self reflect on who I was, but more importantly who I can become and where I’m going in totality concerning my life. Slowly, but surely as I started to create a schedule, build a foundation concern in my life on what I do with my time management daily, that’s why my life started to change for the better.
The more you know and understand who you are the more confident, you will also be with yourself. Confidence comes from within. Being confident and being an arrogant or too totally different things. Confidence is quiet.; being arrogant is loud! What I have learned up into now is the more I learn and sit with myself pour into myself in quiet spaces, which is my environment. I come out a lot stronger and a lot more clearer on my assignment concerning life and the people in my life and around my life.
The more that you were able to control your mind, your thoughts, you’re eating habits, and the way you discipline yourself, including the structural part of your life; you have evolved into a person who is completely relentless and it’s not sorry for the success you attract.
Always remember that everyone is not gonna understand where you are with your life a lot of times. We can only understand where we’ve been, but it’s up to you to navigate where you are going! Control, what you can control and if you cannot control it; let it go.
Always remember to pour into yourself because a lot of times you will be alone, but when you are alone, this is your time to dominate and be great at whatever it is that you do in life in totality!
We all face challenges, but looking back would you describe it as a relatively smooth road?
No, it has not been a smooth road at all. It moves off track at times and then other times it does get smooth.
Some of the struggles that have faced along the way is not receiving what other people will perceive about me. What Others say about me. As well as being told, NO; even though it’s a NO right now does not mean it could be a NO later. And having to process those emotions because emotionally that is a struggle within itself. It all depends on how long we stay in our emotions will determine how long we will stay in a place that will cause our struggles to be our story, or we can choose to overcome our struggles and endure until the end.
As you know, we’re big fans of you and your work. For our readers who might not be as familiar what can you tell them about what you do?
I am an Independent Insurance Adjuster contracted out with Allstate!
I am the adjuster who goes out to people‘s home that has been destroyed in any kind of fires, floods, or due to any kind of natural disasters. I am the lady that they call whenever a family has lost all of their home or lost a lot of content concerning in their homes. I am the one who takes inventory of all of the items that has been non-eligible so that they’re able to get reimbursed for all of their lost items in their residential homes or their commercial properties.
What I am most known for is always pouring into people and allowing them to understand that they are in a situation so that they’re able to be better and be greater. And as long as they have breath every day they have another chance of getting life right again. I’m also known to motivate other others as well. As well as Mentor other others into having better mindset and being incompetent and the person that they have always been.
I am most proud of the accomplishments that I’ve made over the last five years of my life in totality! I’m also most proud of how other people reach out to me and they always pour into me because of the kind words that I give them which is hope and it is also the truth.
What says me apart from others I know, for a fact, besides my style, I would say my personality and how I perceive other people. Some people judge a book box cover, and what sets me apart is I can understand and meet people where they are and have them understand a lot more as well on where they are. I always tell people I’m not ordinary. I am extraordinary.
Where do you see things going in the next 5-10 years?
What do I see my industry going over the next 5 to 10 years? Global for being known for mentorship, mindset shifts, as well as life-changing experiences!
Looking to partner with communities in my area, as well as churches in my area as well as schools in my areas where I am able to make a change concerning people. Things are currently being structured as of right now that will help with this expansion in a system weight that will allow it to remain.
Contact Info:
- Instagram: @coachedbydon https://www.instagram.com/coachedbydon
